It's almost been three weeks since Hannah was born and it's getting better. I'm so grateful to have had Nate around for the first two weeks. I wasn't very good with the crying, but Nate had infinite patience. Not to mention he jumped right to it whenever she started fussing. He has been a fantastic dad. For me it's been a slower adjustment. I love Hannah to death, but I feel like I'm lagging in the bonding department. As horrible as this may sound a small part of me has been feeling... inconvenienced, for lack of a better word. In other words, this new life adjustment is proving more difficult that I thought. I think I seriously underestimated the weight of change that having a baby brings. There are a few things that getting in the way of my enjoying it the fullest as well.
The harness for one thing is a huge pain in the ass. Holding her just isn't the same as when she's not in it. It makes changing her diaper and giving her a bath this process that feels long and tedious. She's also a pukey baby and changing her onsie is HUGELY inconvenient with this damn harness. On a positive note she's had a couple of follow up appointments and at least the harness is working well. Just a few more weeks and she'll have an ultrasound done on her hip and then we'll talk about weaning her off of it, which will take another three weeks, but even her spending half the day out of it is better than just an hour which is all she gets right now.
Another thing is the fact that her breastfeeding relies on my using a nipple shield. My midwife has talked to me about weaning her off of it, but I'm lacking the patience to do it. She has no problems feeding with it and I'd much rather have happy feedings every time than having a long drawn out process of "fighting" with her to accept my natural nipple.
Nursing in public. I can't seem to get over viewing it as inconvenient as well. I think I just have this shyness about it that I have yet to overcome. So my outings kind of revolve around her nursing schedule. I would really like to just be able to go out and never worry about when and where I might have to nurse her because it's no big thing. I taking my nursing pillow with me in the stroller and that makes it a hell of a lot more comfortable. At first I felt like a total dork doing it, but other moms on Facebook have admitted to using a pillow in public as well. Honestly it's better for my back anyway. All in all the nursing is going really well and she's gaining weight like a pro. She's over 8.5 lbs now, I just get nervous about the idea of having to nurse her in public still. Before she came I was always a go go go person and now if I have to nurse her I have to stop somewhere and take my time with her. Again, something else I need to adjust to.
Oh! Getting around on transit with the stroller. I hate taking the bus with the stroller so I've been walking lots. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but since my first experience of taking her in the stroller on the bus was a bad one (the other passengers were idiots and didn't make room for us like they're supposed to so the bus driver started flipping out). Not to mention there are a lot of old people and other moms in New West so I'm competing for a stroller spot with walkers and other strollers. It's such a pain in the ass. The skytrain is much better, except that I can't use one side of the second closest train station because the elevator is out of service. In a nutshell, the stroller is a logistical nightmare, unless I'm walking, mostly because I don't trust people to give me the courtesy I require in the first place for having a stroller.
The summer heat...summer can go away. I'm miserable with this heat. It makes me feel groggy, gross, and sweaty. It doesn't help that my clothing options are seriously limited. I don't have any shorts that are cotton and comfortable for my incision, BUT I just checked out an Ardene today and they have just what I need in sizes large enough that I can buy them loose fitting.
I know I sound like I'm whining up a storm, but I'm in the process of getting used to so many things. But here, let me focus on some positives! I'm already starting to figure out how to manage my time better when I'm by myself (always when she's sleeping!!). My incision is healing REALLY well. I can flex my abs, get up without pain, sleep on my side, and laughing, coughing and sneezing are getting better. The incision itself looks great, in terms of healing anyway. It's a fugly purple line going across my belly, but I know it will fade over time. Hannah is doing awesome. She's gaining weight, has plenty of dirty diapers and cries less than she did when she was days old. I can get through the night with only one feeding, so I'm not as tired as I could be. I'm still tired, but the heat might have something to do with that as well. My stomach is almost back to a more normal state. I just look fat right now, but I know that with more exercise, some muscle toning and weight loss it'll look better. All in good time.